So, recently I was having a casual conversation with a friend of mine about how certain people and certain personalities mix and melt. We went through different scenario’s of people and situations in my business circle and one woman (who shall remain nameless) came up. She, to me, is SUPER insecure and lets every little thing peeve her and make her unsociable/unprofitable. If she doesn’t like something, she’ll hide in a corner pretending busy and totally shuts down. That to me demonstrates insecurity for a few reasons:

• Secure people know how to speak about issues they like/dislike, come to a conclusion and GET OVER THEM.
• Secure people don’t extract themselves from certain situations because of certain people.
• Secure people know who they are, and are who they are WHERE EVER THEY GO/AROUND WHO EVER THEY SEE.

 I could go on for days but, I’m sure you catch my drift. My reasoning lead my friend to believe and call me an “Alpha Female.” This was a first for me. I wasn’t familiar enough with the term to really understand and make an opinion about it so, i googled it and here’s what I got:

 An Alpha Female is a dominant female in a group. She is strong and confident, and a hard worker as well as often busy. She is usually sarcastic because she’s powerful and playful. Alpha Females are intelligent, intellectual problem solvers; and though being an alpha female is more of a state of mind than a physicality, an alpha understands that dressing up sexy increases her power in society, so she does it. Alpha Females are powerful, assertive woman. Their confidence may be due to her good looks and/or superior intelligence. Men desire her, and Beta females with lower self-esteem despise her.

After reading that, I can see why she would call me an Alpha Female but, that doesnt make the actions/insecurity of the other female okay at all. I still need to figure out a way to make this girl feel comfortable with herself when/if she’saround me. I cant staaaaaaaaaaaand a weak heaux.